The Secret to More
Want the secret to attaining more? More what? More business, more promotions, more money, more rewarding
relationships, more success (however you define success).
Note: What follows has nothing to do with The Secret (book or movie) or the Law of Attraction.
Take a moment and imaging in your mind what it is that you want more of. Be as specific and as concrete as you
can. See it. Feel it. Feels good doesn’t it? What is it worth to you to obtain that? Is it worth some effort to
attain that once you know the secret?
Are you sure? Okay, here is the secret to having more: Grow.
Grow? Yes, grow.
Grow what? Grow Yourself.
Ray Kroc (founder of McDonald’s) said you are either green and growing or you are ripe and rotting. (Actually he
asked it as a question, but it was a rhetorical question.) The thing is, most of us want to be ripe and rotting
rather than green and growing. Why? Because growth takes energy and effort. It promises discomfort. There is no
discomfort in being ripe and in rotting (in the metaphorical sense, anyway.)
And yet, growing is precisely what we need to do if we want more.
"you are either green and growing or you are ripe and
One of my mentors (Adam Urbansky) says, "You can only grow your business as fast as you can grow personally."
And I can attest that this is true. My own business is completely intertwined with my personal growth. I have never
grown so much as I have since I went into business for myself… and it hasn't stopped.
I see it all the time in other people's businesses. I have watched businesses fail because the owners refused to
grow in their personal lives. In fact, I have seen it up close – my brother's attempts at business could be case
studies in this.
While Adam made the statement in reference to business (because that is who he teaches and coaches), let me add
that it is just as true for your career… or your marriage or relationships… or your personal wealth… or your
With the speed of change in today’s world, we must keep growing just to keep up. And if we want to get ahead?
Grow some more.
I realize that this is not a comforting message. We are wired to seek comfort and we don’t like change. In
humanity’s early history, change usually meant danger. Of course, in today’s world, not changing carries as much,
if not more danger.
In fact, there is a saying “Change is not optional… but growth is.” You get to choose whether you will grow or
not. But remember… you are choosing between “green and growing” and “ripe and rotting.”
When I was a project manager, I would remind team members and customers of a saying that I borrowed from my
fiction-writing days – one of the formulas for plot: "Every solution carries the seeds of new problems." And it is
true in life just as it is for good fiction (because fiction is a mirror of life.)
That’s one of the reasons we don’t like change… it brings up new problems. I don't know about you, but whenever
I hear that saying I always get a picture of weeds shooting up in the lawn of life. That's how many of us think of
problems... weeds to be dealt with.
How are you going to address those problems? Albert Einstein said, "We can't solve problems by
using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." So, how do we solve these problems?
Did you know that a healthy lawn that is being tended (mowed, proper water, good soil) will overcome weeds on
its own? That's right, no need for weed killer, pulling weeds, or other drastic measures. It does this because the
grass grows... and as it grows, it crowds out the weeds.
Just like the grass, as you tend yourself and your own personal growth, you will find that you naturally
overcome the weeds (problems). And you know what? Just like we are discovering about organic gardens, this ongoing
personal growth is the BEST thing you can do for your (business, career, relationships, success) because it is
sustainable... year after year.
Two things to be aware of, though. A lawn left to itself will sprout weeds. It needs tending. You must choose to
embrace growth… and even seek it out. The other thing to be aware of is that you must have help… you can’t do it
alone. You need someone to be a cheerleader AND to hold you accountable. Without those two things (choosing and
accountability) you can intend to grow all you want, but it won’t happen.
The good news is that by choosing to stay green and growing, you will be making small, incremental changes that
are not difficult in themselves but over time add up to a significant result.
And the rewards? Remember the results you imagined and felt at the beginning of this article? You tell me if it
is worth it.
After reading the article, you may decide you need some help in actually following through on the choice to
grow. Sure, it's easy to choose, but the day-to-day follow-through can be tough especially when the growing
However, a coach can make all the difference in the world. There's a reason that multi-millionaires talk
about having a coach as one of the major success factors. There's a reason that anybody who
wants to compete in the sports world (even non-professionally) gets a coach. There's a reason that coaches
themselves get coaches. (Who knows the value of a coach better than a coach?)
Whether you need help identifying the things you need to do to grow, putting those things into practice… or
both… I can help. Together we can make your growth easier and more consistent. Go
to Coaching for Success to
find out more about how we can work together.